BLOGGING TIPS
If you want to be a successful blogger, rule #1, strive to be different.
You don’t hear “be different” as a means to blogging success very often, but let that not distract you from the message – Be Different! If you want to know how to make money blogging and be an online marketing success, enter these search terms on the internet – you’ll find about 17 million answers waiting for you (I just checked it out a minute ago). Most of them recommend the exact opposite of being different. They tell you for true success just do what everybody else has done before you.
Because it pays. Take TV pundits for example. We don’t need to know how many TV pundits the readers of this article know, to know with absolute certainty that each of them is different. Because TV pundits are not known because they are good or bad – we’d have a fight on our hands if we graded them! – but because each is different. Ditto for famous bloggers.
Sure, to be different requires time and effort. It’s a hassle, gets you outside of your comfort zone, and carries with it the risk of making you unpopular. But so does everything else worth having in life. Just consider the alternative – to be like everybody else for the rest of your life – to realize the price to pay for being different is in fact a once in a lifetime bargain.
Most people find it hard to be different, hence few are. For me, being different can get outright scary at times. Had to learn to kick my butt all by myself – not an easy thing to do given my knees bend the same way as everyone else’s. The good news is you don’t need to be different to be different… you only need to be yourself. When you are yourself, you are different. Just be yourself – and bingo!
Or as Shakespeare put it, “Assume the virtue if you have it not.” Within the confines of this article I cannot tell you how or why “act as if” works, but the fact that it’s number 1 on the list ought to tell you something about its effectiveness. Not to mention Shakespeare thinks it’s a good idea too, but having done so already… let’s move on.
If you could be different, how would you do it? Jump with the first idea that comes to mind. By jumping, I mean do it. You don’t learn so that you can then do – that’s an anxiety reaction and an avoidance behavior – you learn by doing (or you’ll never learn at all). If your first ideas at being different don’t work, simply discard them and try new ones until you hit some home runs.
Sooner or later everybody grows tired of playing games, of wearing disguises and otherwise striving to be someone other than themselves (some sooner, some later). The only difference is in what people do next – feel defeated or feel inspired.
To experience the freedom of just being accepted for who you are requires you to embrace your uniqueness and resist the pull to be like everyone else. Nobody can do it for you. It’s an embrace you just must bring yourself to do to… yourSELF. You are already a unique individual – it’s just a matter of daring to accept it and act upon it.
If you resist being different because it makes you feel uncomfortable, chances are that further down the road you’ll end up very uncomfortable indeed. But if your goal is to be different, chances are you’ll end up very comfortable. It’s a law of nature, not much you or I can do anything about. In the long run, not doing what you’re afraid will hurt you, will hurt you more than doing it.
While you should always encourage constructive criticism, never take it personally. It very rarely is personal. Everyone who dares to be different gets the same type of criticism.
You may receive negative feedback from someone who just wants to be heard. Maybe she or he is having one of those days. Maybe their pet just died. In this case, you might want to ask the magic question – “what will make you happy?” – or use some other conflict defusing technique, but most of all keep in mind the big picture. You chose to do what you do, and you love doing it.
Yes, your reputation is always on the line and if criticism is voiced for the sole purpose of trying to hurt and make you feel bad, you may want to respond in kind, but in the long run you’ll never regret taking the high road. It also helps to stop seeking approval, to set your own standards and be your own judge. Ask yourself, “Am I a people pleaser or do I honor my own dreams and goals?”
Every time two people connect, the outcome is either transactional or transformational. Transactional – talking about the weather, providing information, giving directions, that sort of stuff – has its purpose. But for the purpose of learning to be different, the better strategy is to be transformational.
When was the last time you found yourself not just informed, but transformed, by new information, or by old information presented in a new way? Use it as a model and start transforming people, the world and – you’ll find soon enough – yourself.
The Blogosphere offers infinite possibilities and opportunities to be spontaneous and hone your “be different” craft – blogging, commenting, linking, interviewing and guest posting to name a few. Mistakes are just that – missed takes. Discard the not so good ones and keep the best.
In closing, a word of caution: Being different requires courage. If at all possible, never be different on courage alone; always mix it up with consideration. Always be courageous and considerate – you’ll never look back with regrets.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Beat is a personal development expert, coach, motivational speaker and creator of the “Beattitude System” – a complete system to harness the power within. Add excitement to your life – take action. More at http://beatschindler.com
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MAKING MONEY ONLINE (Participation in forums)
. One of the most important online money making tools.
Some people take it for granted but this is just one of the techniques need to connect with people with the same agenda or needs.
Joining forums talking about money making can help yourself to understands what really is needed to become a good internet marketer or to make income streams online and eventually will make you a successful one.
Joining forum also announces to everyone that you also have blogs or websites as a way to make passive income online. If you are having trouble building a blog or website here is a tool that can help you build one.
Forum is also a way to help others with their individual concern. Helping others can greatly affect you and the one that you help so both of you will received individual benefits.
As you help others you will also be helping yourself. Hence posting in forums can be very helpful, beside broadening your network this will also boost the traffic of you site..
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To Be a Successful Blogger You Need to Be Thick Skinned
Keller Hawthorne | May 7, 2010 | 
“Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me
.” A slogan I used to use as a kid. But for many it’s not true. Words can hurt. People can be very cruel. Many hope you fail and they want to see you fail and one way to get at you is via their feedback and comments.
One important aspect of being a blogger that many people seem to underestimate is the ability to withstand harsh comments and, in some cases, personal attacks. Everyone has to deal with trolls sometimes, so if you are the type of person to get your feelings hurt easily, you really need to prepare yourself for mean comments and how you are going to react.
Not everyone will agree on what “negative comments” are as bloggers all have different levels of tolerance in regards to their feelings. Some only feel a bit upset if a troll leaves a mean comment just for the sake of leaving one. Others actually get their feelings hurt a great deal just because another blogger gives them constructive criticism.
Most bloggers can agree that a comment filled with vile or racist language is tasteless and should be immediately deleted. Some trolls even go as far as calling the blogger or other commenters nasty personal names! The best way to deal with this type of person, obviously, is to ignore them and delete their comment.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “don’t feed the trolls”; this saying was invented for a reason! Unfortunately, many bloggers tend to respond to the trolls anyway. If you feel the need to respond to a negative comment, keep in mind that the person who left it will probably never come back anyway, so you could be simply wasting your time.
Only recently I personally received comments saying I was an “idiot” and “boring”. By the way, I have removed the swear words.
Someone also commented on one of my videos saying, “You’re wearing a bad shirt, you have a bad haircut and you are giving bad advice. And what’s worse, you are more wooden than a pencil
.”
Nice! Especially as I was wearing my favorite shirt and had spent hours in front of the mirror making sure my hair was perfect.
Over the years, I have learned to ignore and laugh these types of comments off. But to some, those comments could really hurt.
Some bloggers don’t respond OR delete – they simply leave the comment up and don’t bother doing anything with it. They usually do this because they don’t want to have to censor anything. Even if they’re upset or annoyed, they don’t want to delete anything on their blog out of respect for freedom of speech. The obvious downside to taking this approach is that, even if you ignore the comment, your readers might not do so. Before you know it, you could have a “comment-war” on your hands!
Another reason why it’s important for you to have thick skin is because you’ll need to deal with constructive criticism and differences of opinion in a professional way. If somebody leaves you a comment informing you that they disagree with you, you shouldn’t take the post as a personal attack. You need to accept it as nothing more than differences in opinion. If you leave a sarcastic response, visitors may form a negative opinion of you. Just ask the individual for ideas on how to improve your blog. For all you know, he or she could be a very nice person.
Whenever you feel upset or angry over a not-so-positive comment, you need to remember that everyone expresses their opinions in different ways. Unless a commenter is flat out calling you names, he or she is probably just disagreeing with your opinions, and that’s nothing to get too worked up over.
The most important thing you can do if you get any negative or hurtful comments is to not give up on blogging. If you do, you’re letting the trolls win. In fact, you should turn the negativity into motivation and work even harder to create a good blog! In time, your skin will grow thicker, and dealing with the downside of blogging will become easier for you.
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“Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me
.” A slogan I used to use as a kid. But for many it’s not true. Words can hurt. People can be very cruel. Many hope you fail and they want to see you fail and one way to get at you is via their feedback and comments.
One important aspect of being a blogger that many people seem to underestimate is the ability to withstand harsh comments and, in some cases, personal attacks. Everyone has to deal with trolls sometimes, so if you are the type of person to get your feelings hurt easily, you really need to prepare yourself for mean comments and how you are going to react.
Not everyone will agree on what “negative comments” are as bloggers all have different levels of tolerance in regards to their feelings. Some only feel a bit upset if a troll leaves a mean comment just for the sake of leaving one. Others actually get their feelings hurt a great deal just because another blogger gives them constructive criticism.
Most bloggers can agree that a comment filled with vile or racist language is tasteless and should be immediately deleted. Some trolls even go as far as calling the blogger or other commenters nasty personal names! The best way to deal with this type of person, obviously, is to ignore them and delete their comment.
You’ve probably heard the saying, “don’t feed the trolls”; this saying was invented for a reason! Unfortunately, many bloggers tend to respond to the trolls anyway. If you feel the need to respond to a negative comment, keep in mind that the person who left it will probably never come back anyway, so you could be simply wasting your time.
Only recently I personally received comments saying I was an “idiot” and “boring”. By the way, I have removed the swear words.
Someone also commented on one of my videos saying, “You’re wearing a bad shirt, you have a bad haircut and you are giving bad advice. And what’s worse, you are more wooden than a pencil
.”
Nice! Especially as I was wearing my favorite shirt and had spent hours in front of the mirror making sure my hair was perfect.
Over the years, I have learned to ignore and laugh these types of comments off. But to some, those comments could really hurt.
Some bloggers don’t respond OR delete – they simply leave the comment up and don’t bother doing anything with it. They usually do this because they don’t want to have to censor anything. Even if they’re upset or annoyed, they don’t want to delete anything on their blog out of respect for freedom of speech. The obvious downside to taking this approach is that, even if you ignore the comment, your readers might not do so. Before you know it, you could have a “comment-war” on your hands!
Another reason why it’s important for you to have thick skin is because you’ll need to deal with constructive criticism and differences of opinion in a professional way. If somebody leaves you a comment informing you that they disagree with you, you shouldn’t take the post as a personal attack. You need to accept it as nothing more than differences in opinion. If you leave a sarcastic response, visitors may form a negative opinion of you. Just ask the individual for ideas on how to improve your blog. For all you know, he or she could be a very nice person.
Whenever you feel upset or angry over a not-so-positive comment, you need to remember that everyone expresses their opinions in different ways. Unless a commenter is flat out calling you names, he or she is probably just disagreeing with your opinions, and that’s nothing to get too worked up over.
The most important thing you can do if you get any negative or hurtful comments is to not give up on blogging. If you do, you’re letting the trolls win. In fact, you should turn the negativity into motivation and work even harder to create a good blog! In time, your skin will grow thicker, and dealing with the downside of blogging will become easier for you.
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